Recently, my friend Andrea gave me a necklace of a babushka doll.  It’s not the whole set of nesting dolls, but just the center one on a chain.  When I saw it, I thought, “Oh, that’s cute and quirky, I love it!”

Yesterday, I put the necklace on and held the doll in my fingers, admiring its quirkiness in the mirror.  And that’s when this hit me:  I can learn from this.  I can be inspired by this.

Okay, so I AM running over 100 degree fever these days (in what appears to be a mono relapse) but bear with me.  I don’t think I’m being delusional.

You know what a Babushka doll is, right?  It’s a set of wooden dolls, cut from one piece of wood, of decreasing size placed one inside the other. (Thank you, Wikipedia.)

I am a people pleaser by nature, though I’ve gone through phases of my life where it was a non-issue (hello freshman and senior year of college!) It’s something I love and hate about myself.  I love it because people are pleased.  I hate it because sometimes what they’re pleased about has nothing to do with my true nature. If you will, sometimes I take who I am (the baby middle of the set of dolls) and put something else around me, hiding that part, and showing something else (the outer layers of the dolls).

So what can we people-pleasers do to show the inner “me” and be happy with and proud of who we are? Find a way to believe truth over lies.

I’ve recently read a book about how our negative life experiences can create lies we believe about ourselves and put on repeat in our minds. I’ve been practicing a new discipline lately where I replace lies I believe with truth through meditation.  It’s remarkable how much I’ve changed.

For example:  One lie I tend to believe is that if I’m totally myself, people will not accept me because I’m not good enough.  My mind can easily bring up memories that back-up that thought.  So I pray that God will take all of those unhealthy beliefs, images and memories and replace them with his love and truth.  Then I meditate for a while on the truths that specifically deal with that lie. In this case, I use:

  • I am a child of God, accepted by him with a parental love that is unconditional. (from John 1:12 from the Bible)
  • I was predestined for greatness as God’s child. Before everything He chose me and after everything He continues to choose me.  (from Eph 1:4-6)
  • I am fearfully and wonderfully made. (from Ps 39:14)
  • I’m a lovable, significant, whole person of worth, no matter what anyone says.  I have hope and a future with wonderful things in store for me.  (from Jer 29:11)
  • My future is not tied to my past. (from Phil 3:13-14)

Almost immediately, those negative memories have faded away and the truth sits at the forefront with more control over my actions than the lies.  Awesome.

Join with me in releasing our inner babushka doll! (That sounds strange because “babushka” literally means “grandma” in Russian.  But you know what I mean!) It’s much more fun to live freely in truth.

(Books inspiring my new discipline:  Praying God’s Word by Beth Moore and The Healing Code by Alex Loyd)
Advertisements

About ohappydaisy (Leslie)

I love happy things. That includes my silly husband, giggly daughter, polka-dots and daisies. We used to live in India, a land far away from the familiar, but we're back in the states. I cook a low-processed, gluten-free, sugar-free menu. I've struggled with my health since childhood. I learn a lot as I journey through my life and hope that readers with parallel paths will be encouraged and inspired towards happiness.

3 responses »

  1. Andrea Shef says:

    Sweet! I’m going to show my inner Grandma this week 🙂
    Good post 🙂
    You ROCK!

  2. Georgia says:

    I really loved this post. I’m doing the “What’s it like being married to me” study and just this week the author was talking about filling yourself with truth verses the “reality” you’ve created for yourself over the years through interactions with others. Getting back to the basics is always good. (Did that line just take you back to the 1990’s and 4Him?)

    • haha! Yes . . . a heart that is pure and a love that is blind. A faith that is fervently grounded in Christ and a hope that endures for all time. Humm, nice to hear those words today. (But they could really use a new tune!) Let me know how it goes if you do it.

Happily Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s